How to detach and say goodbye.......
As humans we are wired for attachment in a world where everyone comes and goes. Yet we can realise that we are more than our emotions and are capable of being mindful of our feelings. We can see them like the clouds above and not feel overwhelmed by them.
Go with the flow. We are stronger than our sorrows. Fully experiencing our pain enables us to be more compassionate to the pain of others.
We can do this through volunteering, writing, making, doing.
There is no right or wrong way to say goodbye. We make sense of what has happened and find purpose in our individual ways. We need to be patient, reflect ad persevere. We need to put one step in front of the other, We need to tell ourselves that we are going to be ok - this can mean hanging on from minute to minute, hour to hour, day to day.
Doing the internal work of saying goodbye means finding a way to acknowledge that people come and go in our lives, leaving permanent imprints on our character. We inherit traits from everybody who crosses our path or touches our heart. Often we just don't realise it,
saying goodbye is learning to understand what we need to hold onto and what we need to let go of.